Monday, November 11, 2013
Wednesday, October 9, 2013
My first born girl left the nest for the first time last August, when we dropped her off at school and she disappeared into the crowd. We were confused because all the new kids went into the auditorium and the parents went through some other door to sit and listen to the multiple welcome speeches that followed. Then the kids were dismissed into group sessions and parents were just dismissed. WOW! Don't I get a hug good bye :-(
We texted each other. She was so happy and we were so proud of her and happy that she was happy. But a little sad too. After all, she was the second out our four kids to leave the nest. On the bright side, I know she's safe and happy.
Our little Em has challenged my patience and had me questioning my parenting skills. I think that's supposed to happen at some point in our lives with at least one of our kids... I have four.
But most important she has managed to make us laugh when we least wanted to laugh. She's a natural artist with a smile that makes everyone smile back. She loves funny movies, sitcoms, and good books. She has a big heart and a genuine love for those around her. When she makes a friend, she's a friend for life.
I have to admit that it was a lot harder dropping her off this year as she begins her second year of college. She spent her summer at home, worked three jobs, spent quality time with her dad and siblings, met up with some friends, and occasionally forced me to watch her favorite shows because she thought we needed to laugh together. Yes, in the end I did.
Now we are settling into our new home, getting the second set of kids adjusted back in school and really missing both our older kids as they make their new lives without mom and dad. Well, physically, trust me, they both call or text enough to stay very active in our lives... THAT is something a truly treasure!
Can't wait to see what this year brings! We will be seeing them both again soon and spending more quality time with our first two treasures. I can't wait! Love my Em and I really, really miss being forced to watch funny shows or listen to her retelling that last book she read.
A great weekend is just ahead!!
Friday, July 26, 2013
You ever find yourself surrounded by negative people? Negative situations?
At the grocery store.
At the gym.
Sometimes, even at home.
Yes. We all face them and sometimes we just follow suit and fall into that negative rut that plague so many.
I'm a big believer in living as an optimist (with realism not too far behind). I have asked the pessimists in my life why they always thing the worst of things or the worst case scenario? They respond with "this way I'm prepared for the worst and if something good happens then I'll be surprised."
WOW. That response has stuck with me because it is amazing that anyone can think like that. I see their point though. They are trying to avoid feeling disappointed. But, what's wrong with a little disappointment? Aren't those the hurdles we must strive to jump every once in a while?
As an optimist I say everything will workout as it should or today is going to be a great day, regardless of how it started and it usually turns out that way. I find myself smiling more, getting less stressed over traffic issues, silly people, screaming kids at the market, etc. However, when things don't workout, even after I've worked myself up to thinking they will, I use those moments as challenges to make things better.
There's a theory about stress first identified by Dr. Susan Kobasa (1979) called the Hardiness Theory of Stress. The theory has three basic principles:Commitment, Control and Challenge, also known as the three C's. Possessing the three C's makes one hardy.
One who is hardy will be committed to what they are doing, act as if they can control the outcome regardless of the changes, and use the change as a challenge to improve their life. Those people are considered hardy and have been known to #1 manage stress better then most, #2 avoid the health effects of stress, #3 live a happier life.
"When I go to bed at night I already know how my day is going to be the next day. However, I have been known to oversleep, forget to turn on the alarm, the kids sleep right through their alarm, and I forgot to pack lunches the night before, etc. OK so things have taken a turn and my plan to have a great day has been challenged. Am I hardy enough to deal with this mess?
I'd like to think I am, most of the time. I commit myself to what I know I can and must do NOW (get everyone up and ready to go). I control the outcome of this event (everyone will get to school, eventually- it's not the end of the world). I use the challenges and be better prepared next time (pack lunches the night before, go to bed at a reasonable time).
No screaming, no anger, no fights. Just taking the time to do what needs to be done because no matter what I do, I can't turn back time. I can only work towards making this day a great day, regardless of the setbacks.
This rule also applies to my personal and professional health and fitness schedule. I have already been challenged one too many times with either the realization that I have a class to teach or a client to train and something got in the way of that. I've learned after enough of those hurdles to be prepared and plan in advanced, even if it means going to bed a little later, that gym bag is ready with everything from water to snacks, iPod and workout notes just in case. My clients will never see me sweat... or actually they do, they see me sweat a lot.
A few quotes to get you thinking:
“A pessimist sees the difficulty in every opportunity; an optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty.”
|~ Winston Churchill|